From the first second you find out you are pregnant, you start to worry!
This is called mother guilt and quite frankly it is a BITCH. Mother guilt is a demanding cruel reality of motherhood.
In the Birth Beat courses we spend time discovering parenting and communication tips to help you and your partner feel confident and empowered in those first few days after the birth.
So much focus is put on the day of birthing your baby. Sometimes we forget that we are going to be left in charge of these mini people. I teach parents to be how to safely sleep and swaddle their bubs.
With Red Nose being tomorrow I thought I would share some tips for you all.
Every class I will be asked, will I
a) spoil my baby?
b) create bad habits?
No, no and no. Since when did needing cuddles become a bad habit? Your baby needs touch and movement to help their tiny brain develop healthy connections and structures for later learning and appropriate emotional responses; they need reassurance and responsiveness to help them develop trust and a strong connection with you –that lasts a lifetime. They are learning, you are there for them, you are their safe person, they can come to you whether they are a baby, a toddler a school aged child or a teenager and you will listen and help them.
There are so many guides and books telling you what to do. My best advice is to go easy on yourselves. Be kind to each other. A baby that is not sleeping much leads to an often tired and grumpy household. If this is your first baby, try to rest when they rest in the day. I remind my Mummas that a baby is not going to know if the housework is avoided, they will be secure happy little people if you replace vacuuming with cuddles. Learning to swaddle and safely sleep your bub is key.
One very helpful thing to remember is babies do not sleep well if they have a congested nose. I loved our humidifier for Polly when she had a snotty nose and you can get these fab little aspirators which actually gently suck the snot from your bubba’s nose. I know sounds totally weird but they work! Check them out here.
1. The safest place and position for your baby is on the back from birth, not on the tummy or side. Healthy babies placed on their back to sleep are not more likely to choke.
2. Always sleep your baby with his or her head and face uncovered. Put your baby at the bottom of the bassinet or cot and make sure you tuck in any blankets and sheets firmly so they don’t loosen and move over the baby’s face.
3. SIDS is more common in babies who are regularly exposed to smoke so keep baby smoke free before birth and after. It’s simple: don’t smoke around children.
4. Provide a safe sleeping environment night and day.
5. Sleep your baby in their own safe sleeping place in the same room as an adult caregiver for the first six to twelve months. SIDS and Kids recommend sleeping a baby in a cot next to the parents’ bed for the first six to twelve months of life.
6. Breastfeed your baby if you can. According to research, breastfeeding babies more than halves the chances of a baby dying suddenly and unexpectedly.
Do what feels right for you and your family unit. Please remember to sleep babies safely, you can not spoil a newborn. Love and enjoy your bundles of joy.
I promise you, before you know it they are so big and too busy for cuddles!